Todays young, single, people have never had it so good when it comes to relationships with the opposite gender. There is an explotion of man-women relationships and also a wide range of man-women relationships, to choose from. The predominant one is the boyfriend- girlfriend sort of relationship where both are willing and committed to get married. The lucky ones, with family support may get married, while others get married on their own and still others may engage in a sort of living-in arrangement, as long as it goes without hinderence
The other one kind of relationship is the more mature and cool one where sex is the combining factor, but without any iato of other commitments in their relationship. Any type of relationship to be fruitfull both to the mind and body has to have an emotional commitment. So here both parties to this kind of relationship get no fulfillment from their relationship. Here the parties to this kind of relationship may tend to stay with only one partner of the opposite sex. In contrast to this one more kind of relationship is where the partners are very good companians, share all their thoughts and feelings and have sex as and when they feel. In this kind of relationship their is no guarntee that they will not have relationship with others also. It is like a free for all but not with who ever asks for. Here parties to this relationship will have something in common, such as groups, same vocation, similar interests etc.,. An off-shoot of this kind of relationship,is one where the parties have relationship exclusivily for sex.
One more kind of relationship is called the platonic love. Here the parties are like true lovers but with the exception of having sex and intending to get married. Here the parties stick to one another and do not have any other partner. Here like true lovers, they share everything, their thoughts,fellings etc., but stay as such and are not inclined to mary. This relationship is truly hard proposition to maintain, for there is a lot of difference in having this kind of relationship between parties of same gender and opposite gender. While discussing or sharing intimate details and when that position is supported by the other gender, the underlying sexual feelings makes its unsolicited apperance. The greatness of this platonic love is the parties do not succumb to this sexual tension.
This platonic love is not only not about havinf sex but care should be taken to see the emotional equation or involment do not spoil your other relationship. Any relationship to be true to itself gas to have an emotional involment, lest it will not grow and bloom, but wither away and be just a causal friendship. You should take care not to compromose to spouses need, while you lend a hand in supporting or helping your platonic partner. You should mutually draw a boundary line to each others involment in other, and be able to keep the relationship within these, have no undue expectation of each other. If these are followed than you will have a long, productive and fruitfull relationship. This will make you a better person, emotionally as well ,as all of us are trying to be one.
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